Misogyny or feminism? Which is worse?

Clearly, misogyny is unattractive, dumb and unkind to women.  There is no need for me here to expand on this proposition.

But it seems to me that feminism is just as bad, causing damage which is more indirect but equally invidious.

One problem with feminism, of course, is that it typically equates equality of opportunity with equality of outcome.  Some feminists purport to understand this concept in the abstract, but they almost always abandon it in the application. Similarly, feminists will not infrequently acknowledge that there are some material differences between men and women, both in terms of the body and the brain (you might reasonably say here that the brain is part of the body. But that is really another way of making the same point). But again, this acknowledgement tends to evaporate in the application.

Another problem with feminism is its implicit assumption that if a man acknowledges a woman’s attractiveness, then that must necessarily infer that he fails to appreciate her other qualities. In fact, the opposite is true. If a man finds a woman sexually attractive, he is more likely – not less likely – to think her intelligent, witty and good company.  Especially if he is at liberty to acknowledge how he feels, rather than keep those feelings buttoned up as a guilty secret.